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“When action meets compassion, lives change.”

~Dave Ramsey


Sunsets are one of life’s best gifts.  Sunsets red on the ocean, peaking around mountains or brilliant on the plains, I love them all. The sunsets from my home in rural Okawville are awesome.   I’ll bet you have seen wonderous ones, too.

This sunset is from my office window.

For me, sunset is the most profound, inspiring time of the day.  It’s the time to reflect on the beauty of this earth, be grateful for all that the day has given, and be hopeful for the next day, knowing that the sun will rise no matter what.

Each sunset is unique.  Some are not majestic, with clouds obscuring the view. Just like sunsets, we are all different too.  Some days spectacular, some days not.

It’s amazing to me, each of us are on this earth, experiencing the same day, the same breaths, the same sunrise, sunshine and sunset.  But, each of us have such a different experience, different frame of reference and intention and emotions.

From my experience, it’s like that with grief, too.  We each experience grief very personally.  Unique to our experiences, frames of reference, intention and emotions.  Even people in the same family, having lost the same person, will remember that loved one in their own, unique way and grieve them in very different, personal ways.

When I wrote We Lost Her, which is the story of my six siblings and my loss of our mother in our youth, I learned just how differently we each grieved her, as described on page 7:

“I was shocked at how much I learned from the interviews with my siblings.  We lived in the same house when we lost her, but each has different, diverse, sometimes contradictory memories from the experience.  I learned so much about my dear brothers’ and sisters’ journeys through grief and how they were impacted.  I thought I knew them all very well, but I understand now that I didn’t. I am grateful for this knowledge and feel closer now than I ever have to them.”


Just like sunsets are all different, so is our grief.  And each of us siblings found our way to journey through that grief.  For some of us, it’s taken a lifetime.


Fifty years ago, we didn’t have help through counseling or support groups.  Today in Southwestern Illinois, we are so blessed to have Heartlinks Grief Center. I am so grateful for Heartlinks services.  If you are grieving or know someone who needs help on their journey, please contact Heartlinks.


In this new year, dear reader, as we continue to struggle with the seemingly unending pandemic, I hope today’s sunset brings you peace.



This one is from South Padre Island Texas

Heartlinks Grief Center provides grief support to all ages, regardless of ability to pay.  If you are grieving or know someone who could use assistance on their grief journey, please contact Heartlinks Grief Center at 618-277-1800 or email

Proceeds from the sale of my books are donated to help support Heartlinks Grief Center, a program of Family Hospice of Belleville, IL.


Be blessed,



Ellen Krohne


Heartlinks Grief Center volunteer and Family Hospice board member

“We Grow Stronger Together”


We Lost Her, available at, Heartbroken, available on, The Secret of a Mommy’s Love available at The Secret of a Mommy’s Love.


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