As a change management consultant companies hired me to bring new ideas and business practices to their organizations and then help them implement those changes.  “Don’t tell me what you will hope to do, tell me what you will do,” I’d admonish managers who were often struggling with the changes proposed.  Hoping or trying to […]

A whole year has passed.  It hit me as I was thinking about what to share with you this week, that I’ve been writing this blog for a whole year.  One of my first blog posts for Grief Reflections was around Christmas last year from the book I authored, We Lost Her, and how our […]

An interruption by definition is an interference, a disturbance. It can be a break, a pause or a gap. In my many years working at the regional electric company, it meant a loss of electric service and hard work ahead to restore service. That’s what I still think of first when I hear the word […]

Friendsgiving.  A new term for me, but one I just love.  Friends gathering and enjoying a meal together at Thanksgiving time.  I hosted our local “Party with A Purpose” Friendsgiving this past Thursday, with the purpose to raise money for Heartlinks Grief Center’s Partner Loss Workshop, which is held around Valentines Day each year. The […]

  “It’s long enough isn’t something a grieving person hears right away.  Not at the funeral home or at services, not in the next week or two probably. But, soon. Our society doesn’t have patience. For lots of things. Including me, of course!  I don’t like to wait in line and I expect my package […]

Last week I was honored to be invited to talk with the Tilden Presbyterian Church Women’s Circles (The Morning Glory Circle and the Ollie Dunn Circle) about Heartlink’s Grief Center and discuss, “Never Say These Six Things – well-meaning but hurtful expressions of sympathy and what to say and do instead.” The women’s groups had […]

Standing by her coffin at the visitation, one of the things I remember people asking my Dad when my Mom died in 1970, was “What happened, Tony?”  “How did she die?”  Mom died during childbirth of an amniotic fluid embolism – a blood clot.  A rare condition where the amniotic sac is ruptured during delivery […]

Okawville, the small town I call home has had many deaths in the last few weeks. More than normal. One of the traditions our small town carries out through its churches is the Funeral Lunch. After the burial, the mourners are invited to dine together, usually in the church hall. The women’s group of that […]

No matter when our loved one dies, young or old, we grieve. When older people die we acknowledge and can accept the loss a little easier, I think. We express our condolences and know that the person that died has had a long and hopefully, good, life. Most of us can deal with that. When […]

Guilty.  That’s what I am of this “Never Say These Six Things – Well-Meaning but Hurtful Expressions of Sympathy and What to Say and Do Instead” item I’ll talk about in this post.  I’ve often said to a person standing near their loved one in the funeral home or church, “I lost my Mom many […]