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When you are a grieving person,

You will undoubtedly experience

The unpleasant sensation of

Griefbursts and gutpunches.


You can’t prepare for either one.

They happen when they happen.

A griefburst or a gutpunch comes

When you least expect it.


There’s not a whole lot of difference

Between the two.

I consider a griefburst to be

A quick memory that causes us to cry briefly.


A gutpunch, however,

Can be an unexpected event or happening

That causes a longer period of sadness

And to feel as though the wind has been knocked out of us.


Neither sensation occurs at predictable times.

I personally experienced a gutpunch for my dad

While riding the cograil up to Pike’s Peak!

He had been deceased for ten years!

I have had numerous griefbursts

Since I became a grieving person:

In the grocery store

When I passed her favorite cookies.


When the department stores started decorating

For the coming Holidays;

When I sat on our deck

And reminisced about how she loved the outdoors.


On a good day, those things wouldn’t bother me.

But if I am especially tender, I will definitely cry.

I have come to accept crying as a normal bodily function.

If I cry in front of people, so be it.


As Washington Irving said,

“There is a sacredness in tears…

They are the messengers of overwhelming grief,

Of deep contrition, and of unspeakable love.”


In other words,

If you experience a griefburst or a gutpunch,

It’s perfectly normal,

And it’s okay to cry.




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