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“Open your arms to life! Let it strut into your heart in all its messy glory!”
 
–Deborah Wiles

Interruptions

An interruption by definition is an interference, a disturbance. It can be a break, a pause or a gap. In my many years working at the regional electric company, it meant a loss of electric service and hard work ahead to restore service. That’s what I still think of first when I hear the word […]

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Thanksgiving Intentions

Friendsgiving.  A new term for me, but one I just love.  Friends gathering and enjoying a meal together at Thanksgiving time.  I hosted our local “Party with A Purpose” Friendsgiving this past Thursday, with the purpose to raise money for Heartlinks Grief Center’s Partner Loss Workshop, which is held around Valentines Day each year. The […]

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“It’s Long Enough”

  “It’s long enough isn’t something a grieving person hears right away.  Not at the funeral home or at services, not in the next week or two probably. But, soon. Our society doesn’t have patience. For lots of things. Including me, of course!  I don’t like to wait in line and I expect my package […]

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“At least….”

Last week I was honored to be invited to talk with the Tilden Presbyterian Church Women’s Circles (The Morning Glory Circle and the Ollie Dunn Circle) about Heartlink’s Grief Center and discuss, “Never Say These Six Things – well-meaning but hurtful expressions of sympathy and what to say and do instead.” The women’s groups had […]

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“What Happened?”

Standing by her coffin at the visitation, one of the things I remember people asking my Dad when my Mom died in 1970, was “What happened, Tony?”  “How did she die?”  Mom died during childbirth of an amniotic fluid embolism – a blood clot.  A rare condition where the amniotic sac is ruptured during delivery […]

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“Let Me Know If You Need Anything.”

Okawville, the small town I call home has had many deaths in the last few weeks. More than normal. One of the traditions our small town carries out through its churches is the Funeral Lunch. After the burial, the mourners are invited to dine together, usually in the church hall. The women’s group of that […]

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“It was just his time.”

No matter when our loved one dies, young or old, we grieve. When older people die we acknowledge and can accept the loss a little easier, I think. We express our condolences and know that the person that died has had a long and hopefully, good, life. Most of us can deal with that. When […]

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“I Know How You Feel”

Guilty.  That’s what I am of this “Never Say These Six Things – Well-Meaning but Hurtful Expressions of Sympathy and What to Say and Do Instead” item I’ll talk about in this post.  I’ve often said to a person standing near their loved one in the funeral home or church, “I lost my Mom many […]

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Never Say These Six Things!

  Well, it’s official.  The Heartlinks Grief Center Speakers Bureau has had our inaugural presentation.  Last Saturday, I had the honor to meet with the Family Hospice of Belleville Volunteer Group where I made the first presentation of what we hope will be many in Southwestern Illinois.  The topic was one a lot of you probably cringe […]

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This Again??

Last week Diana Cuddeback, Director of Heartlinks Grief Center and I attended the National Alliance for Grieving Children (NAGC) Annual Conference in San Antonio, Texas. We were privileged to share Heartlinks journey over the last three years in fund development programs and organizational planning with some of the participants. Those attending the conference were professionals […]

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