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Asking Permission

Heartlinks Grief Center’s Director, Diana Cuddeback, another volunteer, Mary Woesthaus and I met this week to discuss launching Heartlinks new Speakers Bureau. The purpose of the Speakers Bureau is grounded in Heartlinks’ Strategic Plan Initiative that is aimed at educating the Southwestern Illinois community about grief. The hope is that by opening a dialogue about […]

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Inside Out

The movie Inside Out has five animated characters as the main characters. They are the basic emotions – Disgust, Fear, Anger, Sadness, and Joy. The main character is Joy, she runs the show about a 12-year-old girls emotion. Inside Out starts with Joy in charge, trying hard to keep the girl, named Riley, happy all the […]

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Holidays are Hard

Mother’s Day has always been a hard day for me.  In We Lost Her, the book I recently authored about my Mom’s traumatic death in 1970, I describe my feelings about that special holiday without her in this way: “Mother’s Days have always been the hardest.  Even once we had our two precious children and […]

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Helping Others Grieve and Knowing When to Get Help – Learning #5 of 5

Relaxed. A summer afternoon watching the Springfield Cardinals with the kids 30 years ago. My sister Betty and I were chatting away, paying no attention as the kids rooted on the team. Next thing I know, pain rushes through my arm. “What happened?” is screaming in my head. Our son proudly chases the ball that […]

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Teach our Children Well – The Need to Teach our Children to Grieve

“…the past is just a goodbye.  Teach your children well” is the chorus of one of my favorite Crosby, Stills, Nash & Young songs, “Teach Your Children Well.”  Yes, I know that dates me terribly even though I’m proud of growing up in that world-changing era. As a grandparent now, I still love listening to […]

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Learning #4 of 5 Helping Others Grieve and Respecting Timeframes

The ancient Greeks had two words to describe time.  One was Kronos, from which the English word chronological is derived. It means clock time – time measured by seconds, minutes, hours and years.  Kronos time is gauged by the calendar. It’s fixed, full of deadlines, schedules and in this technology-laden world, annoying beeps and reminders […]

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Keeping Your Loved One Present – Learning #3 of 5 Helping Others Grieve and Ongoing Presence

After our Mom’s tragic death in 1970, we just didn’t talk about her. My six siblings and I each struggled alone and didn’t share how we were feeling. We were all trying so hard to “move on.” We let her fade into the background. Not forgotten, ever, but too painful to be part of our […]

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Prayers – Learning #2 of 5 on to How to Help Others Grieve in Caring Ways

“You are in my thoughts and prayers.” Many of us, especially if we believe in God, often say that phrase when we attempt to comfort someone that has recently lost a loved one. I’ve said it many times. And wrote it in cards to people. And, I hate to but have to confess that I […]

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Open the Door – Learning #1 of 5 on How to Help Others Grieve in Caring Ways

Acceptance is hard.  Acceptance that someone you love has died; will never be walking through that door again.  Acceptance that your life will always be different, from this day forward.  In our household growing up, all time was defined as “before or after Mom died.”  Kind of like when you first become a parent, life […]

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Five Ways to Help Others Grieve in Caring Ways

Heartlinks Grief Center, based in Belleville, Illinois serves all those that need help with their grief journey in Southwestern Illinois.  The staff truly understands how to help others grieve – and caring is central to their mission.  As Valentine’s Day approaches our hearts turn to those we care about.  It’s a special day we set […]

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